When you meet a new guy, it can be really hard to judge what kind of person he is. Is he someone worth your time, so you should continue to pursue things with? Or is he actually giving off little hints that he’s someone you should avoid completely in the dating world? When we’re distracted by charm or the way someone looks, it’s easy to ignore these things… but we need to be on the lookout to prevent heartbreak!
Here are the 5 red flags when dating you should look for:
1. He Wants To Be Part of All Your Decisions
Always needing to have a say in everything, even when it has nothing to do with them. My sister’s ex-boyfriend was extremely overbearing, he wouldn’t let her do anything without his permission.
A boyfriend should support you and help you make decisions – not make them for you. If he wants to be part of everything you do, that’s not cute or protective, it’s controlling. Be very careful.
2. He’s Head Over Heels For You Instantly
Personally, it is ‘Falling in love’ quickly, say after a week or so they are saying they love you or trying desperately to get into your pants. Good chance if they are doing these that they are just after sex until there next goal women appears. It might seem obvious but I have known some of these guys and women fall for ‘the game’ if you will time and time again.
If he’s saying “I love you” after three dates, there could be a few reasons: either he’s rebounding for someone, he’s just desperate for a girlfriend no matter who she is, or he’s just trying to get in your pants. Either way, he’s not emotionally stable or he’s just a jerk. Real love takes time.
3. He Doesn’t Make Decisions for Himself
When they don’t know who they are. When they have stories of how exes pretty much push them into making the biggest decisions of their life. Find out why they like strong women, is it because they want a match or because they are weak and constantly need someone to validate who they are?
You want to date a guy who’s independent enough to do things on his own, not someone who’s looking for a girlfriend/mother.
4. He Gets ANgry Very Fast, Even If It’s Not With You
Short-temper. If he’s constantly losing his temper, he’s going to eventually do it at the wrong place and time. If he doesn’t understand basic conflict resolution or how to de-escalate a situation, he’s not going to be that great of a person to have in your life. Also, if he’s rude to waiters. This shows an incredible lack of judgment. These are people who are handling your food. It also shows how he treats others and how he’ll act if there’s ever a power differential in your relationship..
5. He is overage
Men have a biological clock of sorts. Men in their 70s or even 80s can, and do, father children. But a man this age is more likely to take years rather than months to get his partner pregnant.
The older a man is, the longer it will take him to get his partner pregnant. The chance of conception taking more than a year is:
- about eight percent when the man is under 25
- about 15 percent when the man is over 35
An age gap can make a difference too. If a woman’s partner is at least five years older than her, she has less chance of conceiving within a year than if her partner is the same age. That’s the case whatever the woman’s age.